012. Loneliness Is Not What You Think: A Transmission on Solitude for New Earth Builders

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Hello and welcome back to Return to Rhythm. It is a gloomy Friday afternoon sitting down to record this podcast for you. And I'm so excited that you're here. I have a candle burning, it's just chill, comfy vibes over here, and I hope it is the same for you. Take a moment to get comfortable. Whatever feels good to you. This is a message that wanted to come through this week, and I think it's one that's really important, especially if you are [00:02:00] on your awakening journey.

The topic that my channel wanted to bring forward today is loneliness. And we've all experienced loneliness, I'm sure at one point or another, but this information that wanted to come through is really important because I think it helps us reframe loneliness to change the way we can look at it, to open ourselves up more around this topic.

A lot of times we say I'm so lonely and I feel so alone. And the great thing is when we discover that we have this inner voice, this well of wisdom within ourselves, this deep connection to source, we recognize that we are never actually alone.

What triggers the feeling of loneliness is when you are cut off from that part of yourself and you are filling these voids within yourself from the external. So if you have someone that you're leaning on for certain things [00:03:00] like. You always have to have someone around you to go do things that means you're not feeling safe and secure within yourself to feel comfortable to go out on your own to do it. We lean on others for validation. If we don't feel that inner validation, we're looking outside of ourselves to get that. And the biggest point where we start to feel uncomfortable is when those things fall away.

They're no longer there to fill that gap that we need to source from within ourselves. So that's when we feel that feeling of loneliness. And I think a lot of times when we're going through these seasons where we feel alone, it's actually just part of ourselves that's asking us to step into solitude and really spend the time to deepen our self-awareness, to process things that need to be processed, to really get to know what is our [00:04:00] true energy and what is just input from the external world.

One of the biggest things that I've been pulled to do I would say a lot in the last year, is to turn down the noise. To turn down the noise of the external world so I can really hear myself, so I can hear my channel, so I can really tune deeply inward, and know what is my energy and what belongs to someone else.

And when we can do that. We are really so much more discerning and we can recognize patterns within ourselves, patterns that we're repeating. There's so many benefits of being in solitude because being in solitude is being alone with God. It's being alone with source because you are an extension of source, right?

So it's really just calling ourselves. Back into that energy. We're filling up those holes [00:05:00] that we are considering to be loneliness and self sourcing.

This time of solitude is really. Time for self-reflection, for experimentation, for expansion.

Are we asking ourselves in these moments where we are in solitude, what do we actually want to pursue? What do we actually feel excited about? What is calling to us? What is sparking joy? If we sit and dwell on the fact that we're feeling alone. We're not looking at the opportunities that are waiting for us to just sit in the loneliness, to sit in the stillness, to sit in the solitude, and we're not trying to push it away. It's being fully present in it.

And. A lot of [00:06:00] struggle and strife in life comes from resisting the very thing that we actually need. Our mind might not believe that that's what we need because it's searching for these external things to feel safe. Those ways that we've coped and dealt with things that have always been there if they fall away.

That's when we are at a tipping point of expansion. That is when we are growing. That is when we are learning what we have within ourselves, who we are deep down without searching for it in the external world. We are creating our own reality from the inner world and. If we are saying, I am lonely. This is another opportunity where the universe is gonna give you more of that.

So if we can just [00:07:00] sit in the solitude and ask, what does this feeling of loneliness want me to know? How do you want me to expand? What pattern do you want me to interrupt? That is how we use these moments, these energies, these emotions to actually expand us and not limit us and hold us back.

And with there being so many distractions in our reality now, it's so easy to check out of that feeling, to numb it to. Scroll on your phone to watch Netflix all weekend, do anything, but actually sit in the solitude that I think is being asked of a lot of us.

Again, there's so much noise that is trying to pull your attention away when we really need to [00:08:00] tune into our own heart, and the more that we sit in these. Difficult emotions. The more comfortable we can be with the uncomfortable and being in the uncomfortable is actually how we grow. It's how we create more self-trust and safety within the body.

It is also helping to release a lot of identities that we hold. Right. When we can drop the I am around emotions, it's a softer way to allow the energy to move through you because you're not losing the identity, right? Because you were never those things to begin with.

You are always love. You are always enough.

You are the I am. Anything that [00:09:00] comes after that is just what the ego is placing upon us, so how can we sit in the solitude and recognize our oneness? How can we get so in love with the solitude that when we are around people, we can be nothing but fully present and enjoy every moment.

I think there's a lot of men that are experiencing this right now. There's that whole loneliness epidemic with men, and if you can look at that through this lens. You can see what is being asked of the men, but they're not doing it. This is generalization, the ones that are out there speaking this truth about themselves, this is not all men.

I'm just talking about the topic that has [00:10:00] been in my awareness, but if you can look at it through this lens. The universe source. God is asking men to step into solitude and self-reflect, but instead, there's a lot of judgment and criticism placed on the external as the reason that they are lonely.

And they're not utilizing this opportunity to be in the loneliness, to self-reflect, to do the inner work, where they can actually find what their true purpose is here. And that's probably what they're searching for anyway. That's what they're actually deep down looking for, is why am I here?

What purpose do I have on this earth? And a lot of times it's men that are supposed to be the divine masculine, but they just don't know how to get there, and they get there by doing the self-reflection, [00:11:00] by doing the deep inner work.

That is what creates this epidemic because there's so many people out there avoiding doing the internal work, and it's so prevalent in our society, in our media, everywhere, to place the blame outside of themselves to put judgment outside of the self. It's everything else's fault, and it's never looked at as a point of maybe there's something within me that is creating this reality.

Maybe there's something that I'm doing that's magnetizing this experience to me, to teach me a lesson, to show me where I need to expand from the shadow to the light.

How do we take these big [00:12:00] topics like this that are so prevalent in our society? And shift the way that we view them from judgment into light.

It's really just asking us to call our energy back and be with ourselves and drop into the solitude.

More people are wanting deeper connections, and if people aren't willing to go deep within themselves, everything is going to stay on the surface. You are not going to get connections that are based on anything other than talking about your problems and talking about the weather, and people aren't going to be able to fully see you if they cannot fully see themselves.

You cannot hold space for others if you can't hold space for yourself, if you [00:13:00] constantly have to distract yourself and you can't sit in the stillness with your own personal energy. It is gonna be really hard for you going forward, especially as consciousness is rising. So many more people are becoming aware of their power, of their innate divinity and if you aren't taking the time to recognize that within yourself, it's going to feel much harder. It's gonna feel much lonelier.

It's an opportunity to expand. There's nothing bad or wrong about feeling lonely. But can you do the work of asking yourself, what is this loneliness asking of me? What does it want me to know? What does it want me to do? How does it want me to move forward? [00:14:00] Because it's being triggered for a reason in this point in time.

And the more resistance that's in place that keeps you from addressing it. The more intense it's going to feel. So the more that you can allow it to happen, allow it to move through you, allow it to show you what it wants you to know. The lighter you're going to feel, the more comfortable you'll feel being alone.

And then when you are with other people, the connections will feel so much deeper. You'll call in more aligned relationships, people that are on the same wavelength as you. And that have similar interests and that are expanding too, and you can expand together.

That's really been my experience. And a lot of this I think is coming up because this has been, my story I've been telling for a while, [00:15:00] especially since we moved, from Florida to Virginia, was that I didn't have any friends here. But it was really just asking me to be alone, to be in solitude.

And the more I was in solitude, the more processing that I've done around a lot of my shadows and the deep inner work. And I have called in the most aligned friendships in the last year because I've done this inner work and these friendships light me up and they are so life giving.

And think about how you're talking about things, how you're moving through things. Is it life giving or is it draining your energy? Does it give you excitement? Joy, effervescence, bubbles, deliciousness, tingliness. Does it make you feel alive? [00:16:00] Or does it make you feel closed off, tight, tense, heavy?

Can you look at your experience through that lens? Notice how it feels in your body.

Notice where the tension is.

That could be where that feeling of loneliness is living in your body. That wants to be processed by shaking, by moving by, allowing your body to move it out however it wants to move.

Your body holds all of this wisdom. It holds all of this knowledge if you can tune into it, but so many people have been conditioned to live in the head only. And we have this wall between between our mind and our body. And when we can get them both on board together, working in [00:17:00] unison, trusting each other, becoming one again, reuniting again, we will magnetize the life towards us that is meant for us.

When there's that disconnect is where this resistance, this tension, these stories, these identities build and grow.

So let's reframe loneliness to maybe I need to be in solitude for a while. Maybe I need to disconnect so that I can reconnect with myself, with my body, with my soul,

because there's something for me to excavate here, to uncover, to learn.

[00:18:00] Some people go their entire lives without doing this work, but I think a lot of us are being called to do this now. We're breaking karmic cycles. We're breaking ancestral patterns. Generational patterns. We are unhooking from so much energy that never fully got processed.

And maybe this feeling of loneliness that you are currently experiencing or have experienced could be something from a past life, an ancestral generational timeline that never fully got felt. So you are experiencing it now in your current reality, and you get to feel it for them too, and clear it for them too.

We are doing the work of lifetimes right now, not just this one. We are freeing our ancestors that have felt trapped in between worlds because they are [00:19:00] stuck with this energy that never got fully felt.

It is not just about us.

Because when we do the work, it radiates out. When we connect within, we can connect deeper to others. We can stay open to hearing others. We can be more present with others. So the more solitude that you sit in. The greater those experiences will be in your life.

I love my alone time so much. It gives me a chance to dance too. Journal to listen to [00:20:00] music. That makes me feel good. I love high frequency music. I really savor my solitude because that is where I get these downloads. That is where I get this information. This is the time where my channel comes through and drops things in when I'm in the middle of dancing to my favorite song or going on a walk. I get so much from my time in solitude that I cherish it. I love it, and I honestly don't ever feel lonely when I'm in solitude.

That's how you can look at loneliness as a gift, as this beautiful, beautiful gift. There's nothing bad or wrong about being lonely. It's just asking you to be in solitude. It is a beautiful thing if you can allow it to be, if you can [00:21:00] open yourself up to be okay with it, to be okay with the unknown, to be okay without the things that you've leaned on for so long so you can self source your internal safety and stability.

So you can discover what lights you up, what turns your sacral all the way up, what makes it turn into an inferno with desire, with pleasure, with excitement. What does that, you can find that when you sit in solitude, it's really hard to do that when you're constantly distracting yourself with all of the things, just being present with being alive can give you so much wisdom.

I hope this has been a reframe for you, a way to [00:22:00] look at loneliness with a new lens. To maybe open yourself to really taking some quiet time to yourself without distraction. To go for a walk without headphones, to read, without your phone open next to you to just be to journal anything that can get you into a solitude space.

Anything that can get you into that space where you can welcome in the solitude. And allow yourself to sit in the discomfort of it for a little while if you've never done it before, because through the discomfort is where expansion happens.

I hope you have a beautiful rest of your day, and I'll see you in the next one.

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