013. You Don’t Need Validation: Moving Without Proof as a New Earth Builder

Hello and welcome back to Return to Rhythm. Take a moment to land here with me to soften your body, to take a breath to arrive in this space. This message that wanted to come through today feels really potent. It's been circling around validation, approval, and what happens when we stop looking outside of ourselves to know if something is working.

I think this is something that a lot of us experience on the awakening path, especially when you're creating [00:01:00] something that isn't fully reflected back to you yet the results aren't there. The recognition isn't there when no one is telling you that you're doing it right. So the question I want to explore today is this.

What do you do when nothing outside of you confirms that you're on the right path? Because what's been coming through really clearly is that external validation is not the indicator that something is working. Your belief is. Your knowing is. And if the light has already won, how do you move differently?

That's what we're going to open up together today. So the first thing that I really want to break down is the pattern of seeking validation outside of yourself. So much of what we've been conditioned to believe growing up in society and jobs in everyday life is that we are conditioned to look for [00:02:00] results for recognition, for feedback, for approval, and we are constantly scanning outside of ourselves to make sure that we're moving correctly or the right way or going down the right path.

And just because that is what's being reflected back to us doesn't necessarily mean that it's proof or truth that you are moving in a way that is in the highest alignment for you. You could say, if you had a million dollar year in your business and you're making all of this money, was it in alignment for you?

Were you burning yourself out? Did you not have any time to breathe, to be, to actually enjoy this money that you're making? So you're getting the external validation of, yes, I'm making a lot of money and the recognition that yes, I am successful at this business, but at what cost? [00:03:00] And all of this is tying into this scarcity within yourself.

And we tend to be really hard on ourselves when we aren't getting the results, the recognition, the feedback, and the approval of others. We believe that if we don't see the proof, it must not be working. If no one else validates my experience or what I am trying to do, it's not real. But what is real is your internal compass, your internal truth

External validation is often just a delayed reflection, and it's not actually the truth.[00:04:00]

I had an experience a few months ago where I launched this offer. It was a three day channeling experience, and I was guided by my inner voice to create this. It was this really beautiful. Series that was just pure channeling and whoever was meant to be in it was going to be in it. And it had a lot of potency in it.

And it was a channeled activation for people, especially builders of the new Earth. And I went through this entire process of recording everything, creating all of the emails, everything was set up, and not a single person signed up for it. And as I sat with this, it was probably a couple weeks after it, I felt really defeated.

I felt like I had failed. There were so many emotions coming up around this. But over time I decided to do [00:05:00] a breath work and the information that I accessed in that breath work was that. The whole point of me doing that entire series was for me to break free of the chains of struggle, which is what the activation was centered around.

So I was going through this entire experience solely for me, and it really freed me from holding onto that belief subconsciously. So that's just proof that because it looks like it's not working on the outside doesn't mean that it's true. It's working for you in some way, shape, or form. It just may not be in the outcome that we expect and in the way that we expect things to go.

So it's really about recognizing. Maybe I just need to have this experience and feel the feelings and go through the process and really stop hinging everything on [00:06:00] the results, the recognition, the feedback, the approval from everyone outside of you.

There's also a layer of scarcity identity tied to this, and underneath a lot of it is the scarcity of self-trust. The scarcity of belief and the scarcity of safety. And when we don't feel all of those things internally, when we don't feel like we can trust ourselves, when we don't feel safe within ourselves, then we are going to outsource what is lacking within ourselves.

So if we don't feel safe with money. Then that's gonna be reflected in our external. If we don't feel safe to hold success, then that success is going to drip away because we don't feel worthy of it.

So just know that if we have scarcity within that is when we are [00:07:00] going to reach outside of ourselves for that validation, for that approval, for that recognition.

When we can feel ourselves doing that, we can know, maybe there's something in me that doesn't feel fully embodied yet. Maybe there's a part of me that's still leaning on something outside of myself to source these feelings, this sense of self-trust and safety. And validation seeking is just a symptom of truly not fully trusting yourself yet.

So can you zoom out and notice where you are performing? Can you notice. Where you are seeking validation for certain things in your life. It could be the business you're building, it could be a relationship, it could be so many things. Where are you seeking the [00:08:00] validation? And that's a direct indicator of where the trust is lacking.

The next point I want to bring up. And I wanna pose this as a question because this is how it was presented to me from my channel, and I really think it's a good way to shift. How would you move if the light has already won, How would you move differently? If the light has already won, how would you move differently?

If you are here, you are a new earth builder, you're a lightworker, a star seed, someone who recognized that, they are here to serve a deeper purpose and build a new earth, a new way of operating.

If the light has already won, would you hesitate? Would you wait for proof? Would you wait for the [00:09:00] validation? Would you need approval from anyone else? Because if you act as if it's already working, if it's already won, if what is meant for you is already on its way to you, would you pause?

Would you hesitate? Would you stop moving? Because if you've created an offer or you've entered into a relationship, or you've connected with a new group of people,

how would you move differently if you knew whatever is meant for you is already here?

When we have anchored more into this awakening experience and we've raised our vibration and we've done all the healing work, I think we step away from that [00:10:00] conditioning and needing the validation and needing the proof. It shifts from your belief being the evidence and not the external validation being the evidence like your inner knowing is the confirmation.

It's the only confirmation that you need. That it's working. It may not be on the timeline that you expect or have the outcome that you expect, but everything is working out in your favor. How do you move? If you know that everything is already working out in your favor, would you still be seeking that external validation or would you keep moving even though it hasn't shown up in this physical reality yet?

So how do we bring this back into practical, tangible ways to move?[00:11:00]

We need to recognize that external validation is very inconsistent. It's oftentimes delayed. And sometimes it doesn't even exist. It's absent. It's not there.

So how do we recognize that? Just because we're not getting the external validation does not mean that we're operating from misalignment.

And I think when we have anchored into this new earth energy, if we are here to build, we're building something completely brand new. So there's no actual real, tangible way to say whether or not it's working because it's so new. We are choosing to operate from a different frequency, a different way of being, a way that is more tied to our body, to our spirit, [00:12:00] and less of the mind.

So if the mind is searching for validation and proof, it might not be there because this is so new and it's so against the way we're conditioned to operate, to move to exist in this reality. Can we reframe how we are moving, how we are operating? Can we detach ourselves from that external proof that we've been conditioned to believe that we need to know to move forward?

Sometimes nothing outside of you can confirm it because we're building something new. So does that take the edge off? Does that lift the burden off of your shoulders? That it's not happening? It's not happening. Why isn't it happening yet? Maybe it's because [00:13:00] you're ahead. Maybe it's because you are before your time and the world has not caught up to where you are yet.

The 3D world has not. Met you at your frequency just yet, you're just ahead of the game. So how does that lighten the load and help you keep going? Because at some point it's going to catch up and then it's going to explode. But in a good way. A lot of the things that I have been shown for me personally is that there's so much waiting for me behind this closed door.

It's like this big tidal wave, and there's a part of me that is resisting it because I don't have the proof yet, because I don't wanna disrupt this way of being that I've been operating in for so long. I'm holding that door closed, but I need to let it in. I need to let it in even though I'm ahead, even though I am doing things differently, [00:14:00] even though what I am being called to do looks nothing like anyone else's way of being.

There are people on our wavelength that are just waiting for us. They're waiting for us to connect to them. So detaching from this need for validation and approval really just frees us up to experiment, to create, to play, to follow the joy, because that's how life is created. I feel like when we are searching for validation outside of ourselves, it's almost like looking backwards.

It's like looking backwards in time and. If we are meant to keep going and keep building and keep moving forward, it's like sitting at a rest stop waiting for the trip to come to you. For [00:15:00] the final destination to come to you.

But you don't get to the final destination that you're trying to reach. By sitting at the rest, stop and looking around to see if it's close by. We get there by moving, by, stopping for a little while, and keep going and stopping for a little while and keep going.

If we feel like it's in alignment, if we feel the frequency, if we feel the good feeling within as we're moving and trusting that and developing that self-trust that this is working out for me, then that need for external validation really starts to slowly dwindle away and that conditioning can fall away.

And we can write our own story, our own beliefs that we know to be true because we're feeling it instead of seeing things in the physical [00:16:00] way.

The message that came through that my inner voice and my channel really wanted to make sure was delivered in this podcast is so potent. It's so simple, but it's so potent and sometimes we must go through the experience to access the feelings that elicit change.

And I really think this reinforces what I just said. You're not going to think your way into transformation. You're going to feel your way into it. You're going to live it. Just like that series that I put out, right? I was following the feeling, I was following the alignment and the whole thing was for me.

And that's okay. It wasn't meant to be the thing that I was meant to sell or call people in with. It wasn't meant to be that for me. I had to [00:17:00] access the feelings on the other side of that experience where no one signed up so that I could elicit the change within myself, so that I could break myself free from the chains of struggle.

You don't actually ever feel confident until you act without the validation and you don't feel safe until you hold yourself in uncertainty and you don't feel aligned until you move through misalignment. How do you know if something is aligned for you or not aligned for you? Until you feel that feeling in your body, your body will tell you the truth.

So I'm gonna read it again just so it can land, so you can feel the vibration, the frequency of this message, because it's so potent, sometimes we must go through the experience to access the feelings that elicit change.[00:18:00]

So if your brain is perceiving an experience that you are moving through as bad or hard and judging it very critically and using it as evidence for something not working, can you recognize it that you are going through this experience, Because you have to access those feelings so something can change.

We are not meant to stay the same. My inner voice shared with me a while back that stagnation is true death. So if we are not in constant change and motion and moving forward, not I'm saying. Breaks of course are essential. Rest is essential. That's all part of it. But if we are not diving deep within ourselves and changing and growing and learning and moving.

Then we are [00:19:00] stagnant. We are letting life happen to us and not through us.

So if you catch yourself overthinking, if you catch yourself asking, why isn't this working? Why is no one hearing me? Why is no one seeing me? Can you keep going even when you don't have the proof? Because that is going to be what is required of us who are here to anchor in new Earth because there's no proof yet, there's no physical proof for it to be evident. Because it's something completely new. There aren't that many examples out there of what this is going to look like. We just have to trust the divine source within us that it's guiding us to a place that we're meant to be moving towards. So can we ask the [00:20:00] mind to soften, to quiet to rest, and just allow us to keep going even though it may still be searching for that external validation, because the more you keep moving, the more it will trust without it.

So I wanna leave you with this final integration. One of the things that can help you shift this is to just notice when you're seeking validation. Notice if you're reaching out to a lot of people to help you make a decision. Notice if you are sharing things with someone before you post it because you want to make sure it's good enough.

Can you trust that within yourself without looking for the validation outside of yourself? Can you just post the thing and trust? [00:21:00] Can you say the thing in your relationship and trust that that's what needed to be heard because it was coming from within you.

Another thing that you can do is to pause and redirect yourself inward. What do I know to be true? And can you move from that inner confirmation instead of how your external world is responding to whatever is happening?

Because we have to trust our inner voice, our inner knowing, to move forward and build this new earth.

Some practices that you can do is to make one decision without asking for feedback. Can you make one decision without asking for feedback?

Can you create something without checking how it's [00:22:00] received? So imagine posting a YouTube video or doing a piece of art, can you share it and just check out and turn off all notifications and just feel good about putting it out? And can you trust that nudge that your inner voice is leading you to moving towards without needing the proof?

Can you just follow the nudge? Can you follow the breadcrumbs without needing the proof?

I want to leave you with this because I feel like this is the core of what wanted to come through today. Sometimes we think we need to feel ready before we move or feel confident before we act or see the proof before we trust. But the [00:23:00] truth is sometimes we must go through the experience to access the feelings that elicit change. Not think our way there, not wait our way there, but actually live our way into it.

So if you're in a space where you're not seeing the validation that you expected, or that things aren't being reflected back to you yet, it doesn't mean it's not working. It might mean you're being asked to trust yourself at a deeper level than you ever have before to move without proof, to create, without approval, and to believe without external confirmation because your belief is enough, your knowing is enough and the way you move from that place is what actually creates the reality. [00:24:00] Thank you so much for being here with me, and I'll see you in the next one.