007. Choice Is the Doorway: What You Want Is Waiting on the Other Side

# 007. Return to Rhythm – Choice is the path to your biggest breakthrough.

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Welcome to Return to Rhythm, A sacred space for the woman who's been holding it all, but somewhere along the way stopped hearing herself. This is your invitation back into the quiet, back into your breath, back into the parts of you that never needed to prove, perform, or hold it all together. I'm Farrah Channel Inner Voice facilitator and emotional liberation guide.

I hold space for high functioning heart led women who've lost themselves in the giving to soften, to unravel, and to remember the truth buried beneath the busyness. Here we slow down, we ask better questions, we listen inward, and we begin again, not from pressure, but from presence. Each week you'll receive channeled meditations, truth transmissions, or sacred reflections designed to help you return [00:01:00] to your rhythm and rise in your own divine timing.

There's no rush here. There's just your truth waiting to be heard. Let's begin.

​Hello and welcome back to Return to Rhythm. If you're new here, I'm so glad to have you, and if you're a returning listener, welcome, welcome, welcome. I am so grateful to have you in this space with me today, and for these episodes, I really just let the topics come to me. I open and I ask for what needs to [00:02:00] be heard.

Right now, is there someone out there that really needs a message? Is there something that needs to come through that's really important in the moment? So I just open and receive whatever feels called to be brought forward. And yesterday while I was in a group space that I had signed up for this really amazing workshop, that's gonna be three days this week.

I received a message as soon as I sat down that this is what wanted to come through for the podcast today. And the message was, our biggest breakthrough is just waiting for us to decide to make a choice. And sometimes that choice is made for us because we're destined for something more.

And I truly [00:03:00] believe that is how we actually create the life that we desire, the life that we signed up for before we entered this physical reality. And if you signed up for a mission, if you signed up to do a very specific thing. In this physical space, in this 3D reality, then the universe is going to line everything up in your path that you're meant to experience.

And one of the things that I have realized as I have embarked on this journey is there have been many choice points in my life that have brought me to where I am now. And these things had to be there, or I would not have become who I am. I would not have remembered who I am at my core, [00:04:00] and it's all because I decided that I wanted more for myself, no matter the cost.

There were moments like when I decided what college I was going to, where I decided that I wanted better than what was available to me in the hometown where I grew up. There was a moment where I unexpectedly got swept away. By a man that I worked with and I fell head over heels in a matter of weeks before I moved away, and I had decided that I was moving a couple months before this ever came to light because I decided that I wanted better for [00:05:00] myself.

That I wanted more, that I wanted to live in a place that was warmer, a place where I got plenty of sunlight, a place that made me feel at peace near a beach,

and I unexpectedly got pregnant a few months later when he moved in with me. Literally two months later, I was pregnant with my daughter. And I made a choice in that moment that I was going to keep her and that I was gonna love her in the best way possible. And she changed my life for the better, just like my son did as well.

And as I continue to move down this path. I kept making [00:06:00] choices along the way, choices where I decided that there has to be something better, there has to be more. There has to be something greater for me, and I have forged my path this way all along with not even realizing that that's what I was doing.

That all along, I was following my inner voice. I was following my intuition. I was following that feeling that there has to be more for me, and some of the things were choices that I was not making myself. Some of them were initiations that happened to me, and that's okay because had I not gone through some of these experiences, I wouldn't be here.

They wouldn't be something that I had to [00:07:00] unearth within myself to understand why I had to go through the experience. And I think a lot of people at some point say, well, I didn't have a choice. And I think that is just a cop out. And I know a lot of people are not gonna wanna hear that. Because it's hard to hear that because that means you have to take personal responsibility and it means that you are playing a victim to your reality.

You are the victim in that story, and a lot of people don't want to face that within themselves, and that's okay. It is your choice again, but when you say. I don't feel like I had a choice. You are speaking that story into [00:08:00] existence, so you're creating more situations in your life where the universe has no option but to give you an experience that you feel like you didn't have a choice to be in that experience, because the lesson behind that is.

You have the power to change your reality.

We always have a choice, and it really just comes down to deciding. Deciding that you want more for yourself, that you want more peace, that you want to be more grounded, that you want to be more calm, that you want to have more money. That you want that job that you've been longing for for so long. If you are longing for it, then that means there is a version of you that [00:09:00] knows that that is part of your path.

If you are desiring a relationship, but you're telling the story, well, I don't have a choice but to be single, or there's just nobody out there for me. Well, then you're playing the victim again. And if you know anything about Gene Keys, human design 2027 is a big shift where we no longer can play the victim.

That story, it's time for people to let that go.

It is time to take accountability for our own life and to not believe that these stories that we tell ourselves are our truth, are who we are, [00:10:00] that there are limitations to whatever we want in life. The only limitations that stand in front of you are the ones that you speak into existence.

Those stories and narratives that you tell over and over and over again are the ones that are creating your limited reality. So how can you detach yourself from these stories, these patterns, these habits? And make different choices because you want something more for yourself.

There's a layer of unworthiness underneath all of that as well, because we don't allow ourselves to feel like we can desire more because we don't [00:11:00] feel worthy of it. So then we push it away. If it does try to come in, we find a way to sabotage it because we don't feel like we deserve it, but we are inherently worthy of anything you desire.

But if you've been conditioned to believe that. Life is full of lack of limitedness, of, well, this is just how my family is. This is just what we do. I come from generations. That have done this, I have to keep doing it to continue on the legacy, the tradition, et cetera. But maybe you were the one that was placed here because you were destined for something more.

If there is a [00:12:00] longing in you for something more, it is there for a reason.

There was this moment that came up for me in this workshop that I really didn't see as such a big deal at the time, but apparently it was an initiation for me.

Back in 2018 when I had been working freelance on my own for a few years, and , it was back when Instagram was still in this like magical place, this aspiring place and. I followed a lot of design accounts and I was always inspired by so many people's work and all of the things that they were doing and only being in my little bubble.

I really needed that to see what was possible. That here are these female design businesses, and [00:13:00] they were out here killing it and there was this event. Called Designer Vacay and they had done one and I saw the pictures of it and I was like, oh my gosh, that looks amazing. They do it out in Palm Springs.

I don't think they do it anymore, but at the time it was out in Palm Springs and. It just looked dreamy. It was all female designers and there were speakers here and there during the day, but there were also really cool like spaces to hang out in because it was at the Ace Hotel in Palm Springs. So it was just like this experience that I was like, I would really, really love to go do this.

I would love to go do this. So when I saw that they were opening up the next year. I took a risk and I told my husband, I really wanna do this. And I bought the tickets and I booked it, and I shared a room with people I didn't know. [00:14:00] And I mean, I'm talking, all of these things were so far out of my comfort zone for me to, number one, invest in myself like that.

I had never done that before. Anytime I've like spent money to travel, it was to go home for weddings or babies or any of those types of things where I would, go back to my hometown, spend time with people. It wasn't an experience that was what I would call an expander experience. And the thing that happened when this event came around, my husband was in a severe motorcycle accident.

The weekend before and I had to make a choice. I had to make a choice. Do I stay home and be his caretaker or do I go to this event[00:15:00]

and I decided that in this moment, I am going to choose me. I love him, but I need to choose me because this experience is going to expand me. I didn't know this is what was happening in that moment. Mind you, I was just looking at it from this. This is gonna help me make my business better so I can get better clients and I don't burn out again, and I don't end up with, you know, retainer client that I don't enjoy working with it.

It was a means of trying to prevent me from experiencing the stressful years. I was trying to find a way. To make my design business easier, lighter, and more prosperous. So those were the reasons I was going, but I didn't know what this decision was actually doing.

And at the time, my kids were still fairly young, so my mom had come into [00:16:00] town luckily the week before, and she offered to stay. Home and help take care of the kids. 'cause my husband could not do anything. He shattered his shoulder and bumped his head and all of these. He, it was just, it was a very traumatic experience for really all of us.

But I made this choice and I made it for myself. And I decided that I was going to do this for me, no matter the cost.

And by making this decision, it did create so much tension in my marriage from this one choice because it triggered wounds within him. And. [00:17:00] I was expanding in ways and he wasn't.

But this event introduced me to so many wonderful people, and now one of the women that I met at this event is one of my dearest friends that I have met this year in real life again and reconnected with, and it's been so amazing. And had I not gone, I would not have her in my life. Now, that event also introduced me to Gala Darling, I don't know if you know her.

She is an EFT tapping queen. She is very empowering and she's really about owning your life and you can change your life and you have everything within you to make these huge, huge. Moves and enjoy life and find the magic in it. Right. [00:18:00] I really wasn't that deep into manifestation and stuff yet. I was kind of maybe dipping my toes into it a little bit with Abraham Hicks and there was a girl called Ezzy Spencer, I think that's her name.

I had a book about like working with the moon cycles, and I still, like, my brain was not. Grasping that fully yet because it was talking about, well, at this point you've let go. And at this point I was just not there yet, but I was dipping my toes into things that were going to expand me and bring me back into natural rhythms and align me with the way that I live now versus the very structured masculine nine to five must push hard way of being.

This was an initiation, and it all comes down to choosing you, [00:19:00] no matter the cost.

It's like walking through a doorway and you really just don't know what is on the other side or how it's going to change you, but you go through that door anyway. Sometimes you're forced through the door, dragging your feet because there's a part of you that is so resistant to the change that actually needs to happen so that you can awaken to your path and remember who you are so that you can rediscover the power within you.

All of these big tower moments, these life events that shape us. They are there for a reason and if we can step back and look at them from an observer [00:20:00] standpoint and see them as these beautiful gifts rather than situations where we were the victim to these events, we can really. Make huge changes in our life that we just can't see in the moment.

When we choose to move differently, when we choose to spend our money differently, when we choose to act differently,

our realities can be shaped and molded. Into a different way of being into a different way of existing.

Sometimes you wonder, why would I want that? What are the benefits of changing what has become comfortable? What has worked thus far? [00:21:00] Why would I want to go down this path that is gonna ask me to dismantle everything I know to be true?

I think that's the question that everybody really needs to discover on their own, because I think it means different things to different people. But for me, I feel so free. I feel so deeply connected to my power within. I feel so much more deeply connected to nature, to the rhythm of life, to really deep connections with the people that have been brought into my reality this year.

They are soul aligned people. They're not people that are draining me or pulling from me, and it's a very reciprocal [00:22:00] experience when you call in soul people, people that are meant to be there. You can only do that by choosing you and setting the expectation that this is where I am. Are you going to rise to meet me?

You have to set the standard. You can't just say It is what it is. You can, you can, but do not expect a lot of your life to change. If you just say it is what it is. If you say, I just didn't have a choice, or, this is the way we've always done things because we're at a point. In our time right now that that isn't going to work anymore.

That we have to be open to [00:23:00] change, that we have to be okay with letting false traditions with fall away that we have to be okay with because it's always been done this way. It doesn't have to be done this way anymore.

And if you get to the next couple of years, it's gonna be so much louder because there's gonna be so much more resistance to the change. But the change is inevitable at this point. If you are here for a deeper purpose, if you are here for something more, the universe is gonna take care of that for you.

The universe is gonna throw something at you that is going to rock you to your core if you don't actively make the choice to [00:24:00] go down this path on your own.

And I've experienced both. And neither is right or wrong, but I really just followed the feeling. I've always followed the feeling unbeknownst to me and my mind. I was following the feeling. I'm like, this does not feel good. This can't be all there is going to work, and sitting in traffic for 45 minutes, not being home with my kids and being gone from away from them for the entire day and seeing them for two hours at night.

That doesn't feel good to me. They need me to be there for them more. I want to be there to experience this reality with them and watch them grow and become these amazing people that they are now. I had to make the choice that that is what I desired. That is what I wanted. And [00:25:00] yes, we may have gone without as far as money goes for a period of time, but boy did it make me scrappy.

Boy did it make me discover how powerful I am and how quickly I can learn things and how adaptable I am to learning. I can learn things very quickly. But had I not gone down that path that said, Hey, I wanna work for myself, I don't wanna go to a job, I would've never discovered that trait. I would've never discovered that I have the ability to serve people on my own without having to have a middleman.

That I can be in control of my schedule, that I don't have to sit in traffic 45 minutes a day, that I can have time to take care of my body, that I can have time to prepare healthy foods. I made that choice. We all have gifts [00:26:00] within us, but we can't uncover them until we make choices that allowed those things to come forward.

All of the programs that I have invested in in the last few years have shown me what my innate gifts are. The fact that I can channel the fact that I can hear from people that have passed, that I can hear messages that people need to hear in the moment, what wants to come through, that I can hear messages from higher dimensional beings.

I had no clue those things lived within me. But I did the work and I made the choice that that was the path that I was going down

and I wouldn't change it for the world. It's not [00:27:00] easy. It's not easy, but it's simple

and it's worth it

because we're taught that life is a struggle and life is hard. But I think we also get to be an active participant in whether it is hard or not,

there is a way to make sure that you are allowing life to move through you, and you are not allowing life to happen to you. There are two different ways of being. One is the victim. And one is in their power. One is saying, I didn't have a choice. And the other is saying, I made the choice. I made the decision that I wanted more, that I desire more, [00:28:00] that I desire something different than what this current reality is.

So I'm gonna make the moves that get me to that place that I desire.

What really wants to come through right now is that if you are at all interested in coming into the Aurreal Coming into my space, this is a sacred initiation. It's an initiation that you are making a choice. It's an initiation where you are taking the steps. You are moving forward. You are making the choice to decide that you want something more for yourself.

And I can't tell you that it's going to be easy, but it will be simple.

My one-on-one sanctuary reclaim is for you if you are tired of feeling like you have to keep [00:29:00] doing things the way you've always done them. If you are exhausted from saying yes, when you mean no.

If you want to uncover what the yes and no sounds like, feels like from your body, if you wanna deepen your connection to your wisdom within, if you want to get to know yourself for the first time. Without the mask, without the performance. If you want to feel safe in your vulnerability, then I invite you into reclaim.

This space is meant to initiate you into your next chapter of who you are becoming.

So that you can create the life that you desire.

I want to leave you with this one question, what is it that [00:30:00] you desire, especially as we're getting ready to move into a one year, if you know anything about numerology, if you don't, that's okay too. This year was all about shedding, but. A one year is a new start, and what better way to have a new start than to make a choice that you desire more for yourself for the next nine year cycle.

If you feel called, I would love to welcome you into this space. The wait list is still open. The doors will officially be open early to mid-January.

The link to join the wait list will be in the show notes so you can connect with me there. You can also connect with me on Instagram. That's probably the place you'll be able to reach me with a message. And I will get back to you if you have any questions. If there's anything that's come up for you with this episode and you want to give me any kind of feedback, you can find me at [00:31:00] theaurreal.co on Instagram.

And with that, I will see you in the next one.