009. The Spiral Is a Signal: Overthinking, Core Wounds & Coming Home to Yourself

# 009. The Spiral Is a Signal: Overthinking, Core Wounds & Coming Home to Yourself

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Welcome to Return to Rhythm, A sacred space for the woman who's been holding it all, but somewhere along the way stopped hearing herself. This is your invitation back into the quiet, back into your breath, back into the parts of you that never needed to prove, perform, or hold it all together. I'm Farrah Channel Inner Voice facilitator and emotional liberation guide.

I hold space for high functioning heart led women who've lost themselves in the giving to soften, to unravel, and to remember the truth buried beneath the busyness. Here we slow down, we ask better questions, we listen inward, and we begin again, not from pressure, but from presence. Each week you'll receive channeled meditations, truth transmissions, or sacred reflections designed to help you return [00:01:00] to your rhythm and rise in your own divine timing.

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Hello and welcome back to Return to Rhythm. I'm so happy to have you here today and I wanted to jump on this week in the midst of the holiday season, and I'm trying to decide if this is going to be the last episode of the year or not. It's going to be the ninth episode, and to wrap up the ninth. Year in the numerology cycle feels pretty aligned to me.

But if there's something that wants to come through next week, I may, I may just allow it and we'll just see how that flows and [00:02:00] stay open. What I wanted to talk about today and share with you is something that's come up in my awareness recently with friends and just general, like noticing patterns in the everyday environment and.

That has been overthinking. It's this pattern of finding yourself stuck in your head, constantly spiraling. You're replaying conversations and you're obsessing over decisions, wondering if you might made the right choice or not, and you just don't know a way to get out of that cycling loop that's constantly running through your head.

But I want you to know that you are not broken. There's nothing wrong with you if you are currently experiencing this pattern in your life, or it is, or if it is something that is a regular occurrence in your [00:03:00] life.

It is so exhausting to constantly overanalyze and second guess and over prepare and just worry about everything. It leaves us feeling so depleted. What if your mind isn't the enemy? But it's just simply a protector that's working overtime to shield you from this deeper wound. And this deeper wound tends to be a core wound that touches everything in your life.

A lot of these things are patterns that show up when we do not feel fully safe and we do not feel fully embodied in our root. So that area in our body that creates safety, stability. Security, like where [00:04:00] we are really grounded in to who we are, that we are safe to live this life and just be fully, authentically ourselves.

I really want to define this pattern here and really get you to look at it from this observer point of view. What is spiraling and overthinking? Really, it's repetitive loops of analysis. It's mentally rehearsing every possible outcome, like you are constantly bracing for something to show up based on past experiences.

It's worrying about and obsessing over other people's responses to whatever you are doing. It's catastrophizing and indecision and perfectionism,[00:05:00]

and when we are experiencing all of these loops that are spiraling in our head, there is also something that comes up in the body. You feel frantic and disconnected from the body, and you're very hypervigilant in your interactions in life. You're always on guard and waiting for the shoe to drop,

but our mind is just trying to keep us safe. It's trying to keep us from addressing those core wounds that touch every aspect of our life. We subconsciously do this and we don't even know that we're doing it on a day-to-day basis. It's just become this normal operating way of living.

And I don't think a lot of people realize that you can change it.

Overthinking has just [00:06:00] become this coping mechanism for you, and it's there to help you avoid what feels emotionally unsafe or overwhelming.

Our minds are trying to create control to avoid the discomfort of uncertainty, rejection, failure. Or the fear that we're not good enough. Our minds do not like living in the unknown and in the past, that has proven to be unsafe for us somehow, and we don't know that our mind is actively trying to keep us safe from experiencing that again.

There are some possible root wounds that you could have that are coming up with this overthinking pattern. There is a deep rooted fear of being wrong, which the core wound with that would be worthiness [00:07:00] like you don't feel worthy of whatever it is that you are actively seeking in your life.

If you're obsessing over other people's needs, there could be an abandoned wound there. And if you have constant decision anxiety, you are disconnected from your inner authority. So you're outsourcing your au your authority to other people, because in the past, you've made decisions from your inner authority and it didn't go the way that you thought it would, so you felt like you couldn't actually trust it.

I was recently helping a friend who was really stuck in the mind loop, had a really stressful day, and everything felt forced and she couldn't get out of her head. And as I sat with her and we dropped into the body and out of the mind, we were able to address this core wound that the mind was really trying hard to avoid.

Abandonment that [00:08:00] happens at a very early age. Imagine how long you've been operating like that. Overthinking over. Analyzing becomes your normal, right. It becomes your baseline when you have experienced abandonment. So you don't know that there is actually something underneath the surface until you drop into the body, until you show the mind that it's safe and ready.

Because I think these patterns really amplify themselves so strongly when the body is actively ready to let it go when the body is at the point where it can no longer hold it, and the new experiences that you want to call in. Are going to need you to let go of these wounds so that you feel worthy of calling this new experience [00:09:00] in.

It's really interesting as we dropped her into her body as we allowed this massive, massive wound come to the surface and move out of the body, the mind quieted. The spiraling stopped and softness landed.

This spiral is just a signal. It is your body throwing up a flag and saying, Hey, can you please pay attention? Can you step back and observe where these patterns are showing up, how you are operating on a daily basis? Can you just take a step back? I know it's hard when you're stuck in a spiraling loop, but take a step back and drop into the body.

Get into something physical where you are moving that energy in the body, going on a walk, doing somatic shaking. Really dropping into the body,[00:10:00]

and it's okay to stop shaming the mind. We're not judging the mind for the work that it's doing. We're just noticing that it's trying to protect us, and we can honor it and say thank you mind. Thank you for protecting me for all this time and keeping me safe. But I'm ready to find that safety in my body.

So it's okay for you to relax. It's okay for you to stop protecting me from this. I'm ready to face it.

It's not trying to ruin your day, it's just trying to shield you from a pain that you haven't felt safe to face. So when we look at it from this lens and we stop shaming ourselves instead of saying. Why am I like this? Can we shift it to what am I afraid to actually feel right now? What do I [00:11:00] not want to hear from my body?

Because sometimes when we let go of these really big core wounds, there is a very large part of our ego that has to die along with that wound,

and that is the biggest fear of our ego, of our mind. Is to let go of these things that we identify with, right? We label ourselves as I am. I am a worrier, I'm an overthinker, I'm a perfectionist. How much have you heard that in our society and our reality? I used to definitely identify as a perfectionist.

I still have tendencies of it. I am a Virgo sun, so it's kind of written in the stars for me, but I've allowed that to soften and look at it from a, I just really like nice things. I just really like things [00:12:00] to look good and be clean and look at it as just a. Aspect of myself and not something I shame myself for, and not something that I let run my life anymore.

'cause I'm not afraid to fail. I have failed so much this year in so many ways, but I have grown from it. And before I was more than unwilling to fail. I felt like I constantly had to prove myself in some way and being a perfectionist and making things. Appear a certain way was important. It kept me from failing in some ways,

but there is a new way forward. We do not have to stay stuck in this overthinking pattern in this constant mind loop. [00:13:00] When we really start to connect with the body and allow the body to communicate with us without the mind getting in the way, we can gently bring the body back online and let that guide us, and we get to meet what's underneath all of this mental chaos.

There are so many tools out there to help you get back into your body and show it that it's safe. Breath work has been a huge one for me to help me get out of my mind and get into my body and let my body move out whatever energy it needed to any old wounds that I was ready to let go of. My coach this year used the analogy of breath work gets all of this stuff that's in the back of the fridge.

It's that stinky stuff in the Tupperware that you have long forgotten about. Breath work accesses [00:14:00] those things that we don't even realize are running our lives. The other thing that helps me tremendously when I really get stuck in my head is. Inner voice journaling, allowing the inner voice to come through and share with you whatever it feels you need to hear in the moment.

Just letting the mind relax and allowing the inner voice to come forward. It will always show you whatever you're ready to face, and it will be your biggest cheerleader to help you keep moving forward. It will show you that you are safe. And you will feel so much more deeply connected to yourself.

I also highly, highly recommend some type of somatic movement, somatic shaking, dancing, anything along those lines that really drops you into the body and allows you to move your hips and, you know, [00:15:00] shake up and down. Really getting that energy body moving. Allows that stagnant old stuff that we hold onto for so long to shift, to move

shaking, actually shows our body that we're safe. I want you to think about when you see two dogs interact and they play and they wrestle, what do they do when they're finished? They walk away and they shake it off, right? That is their nervous system's way of coming back into that rest and digest mode.

Feelings are not that scary if we actually just allow them to move. But we've been conditioned to believe that feeling things is just the big no-no, and we must overthink and intellectualize everything and really stay in the head about everything. We're so conditioned to believe that. [00:16:00] Our body and mind are almost separate in a way, but when we can reconnect them, when we can allow them to work together, we come back into the most beautiful harmony into balance, mind, body, and soul.

Working together as one to allow life to move through you rather than letting life happen to you.

It is okay to choose to move differently. It's okay to tell your mind that it's safe to stop spiraling by dropping into the body.

You do not have to fix everything with your mind. You're allowed to feel. You are allowed to soften and you're allowed to finally find that trust within [00:17:00] you.

And this is all reclaiming your power. It's reclaiming yourself, it's choosing yourself.

So if you find yourself stuck in a overthinking pattern or spiraling about some issue that's come up in your life and you can't stop thinking about it. I invite you just to try something new. Can you journal everything that's running through your mind out? Can you start a somatic shaking practice when you get up instead of immediately checking out on your phone, can you disrupt your morning routine and drop into the body first without immediately dropping into your to-do list and everything you need to [00:18:00] achieve that day?

Can you practice presence with your body? Even if it's just a few minutes a day, you're giving your mind that space. And you're showing your mind that it's safe to be in the body so that it can relax.

I'm gonna keep this short and sweet today. I know this pattern is probably definitely coming up for a lot of people right now, especially as there is a lot of chaos and noise in this world right now. And. We have so many things trying to capture our attention, so we have a lot of information constantly running through our head.

I want this episode to be an invitation to drop into your body. It's the perfect invitation to try something new [00:19:00] before we move into the new year. Try something new. And I don't mean to, we're gonna achieve all of these goals. Can you just simply shift one section of your day into. A moment to drop into the body, not for working out really hard, not to achieve some fitness goal.

Drop into the body. You can sway, you can shake, you can dance, you can do yoga. Something softens you into the body so the mind can relax This overthinking pattern. Because if you can soften it, you can finally relax. You can finally not feel so exhausted, and so that disassociation isn't the ultimate choice for you to quiet the mind.

If you're realizing how [00:20:00] deep the spiral has shaped your life and you're ready to meet what's underneath it. This is the type of work that we're going to do inside Reclaim. We're going to soften the overthinking patterns and we're gonna help you reconnect with the body. Reclaim is my eight week one-on-one sanctuary for peacekeepers and over givers who are ready to return to their inner voice, to learn their body's truth, and stop spiraling through your survival patterns.

The wait list is still open, and doors are gonna open mid-January, and I'm only gonna take on two people for the first eight weeks. So if this is something that has been on your list and your inner voice is giving you a nudge, I would love to invite you into my world, [00:21:00] inside the Aurreal as one of my soul clients. It would mean so much to me to have you there.

And with that, I'll see you in the next one.