004. The Sacred Collapse: What if Falling Apart is the Way Forward?

# 004. Return to Rhythm – What if it all falls apart?

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Welcome to Return to Rhythm, A sacred space for the woman who's been holding it all, but somewhere along the way stopped hearing herself. This is your invitation back into the quiet, back into your breath, back into the parts of you that never needed to prove, perform, or hold it all together. I'm Farrah Channel Inner Voice facilitator and emotional liberation guide.

I hold space for high functioning heart led women who've lost themselves in the giving to soften, to unravel, and to remember the truth buried beneath the busyness. Here we slow down, we ask better questions, we listen inward, and we begin again, not from pressure, but from presence. Each week you'll receive channeled meditations, truth transmissions, or sacred reflections designed to help you return [00:01:00] to your rhythm and rise in your own divine timing.

There's no rush here. There's just your truth waiting to be heard. Let's begin.

Hello and welcome back to Return to Rhythm. I am so happy to be here with you today, and I want to talk about what if it all falls apart. I, I think that's one of the biggest fears that people have about going inward, about confronting the things inside themselves that they don't want to look [00:02:00] at.

And letting go of what they consider comfortable.

It's really important to recognize that it's just the fear talking, especially if you find yourself saying, what if a lot? I used to find myself saying that all the time when I was really burnt out, stressed out. Not really knowing what I was doing existing in that anxious state all of the time, I was always asking, what if?

What if something bad happens? What if it goes wrong? What if I don't take this one client on? Am I never gonna get a client again? There was always part of me that was asking, what if.

And I think people are [00:03:00] afraid to go within because something that they deem comfortable is going to go away. If I put myself first, will I stop being a good mother? If you have to ask yourself that question, then you're a good mother. If that is a concern of yours, you're a good mother, period. You are doing what you need to be doing as a mom, if I say no to this one client, will I never get another one?

If I tell my husband how I actually feel, is he gonna cut and run and abandoned me?

Those are all very legitimate concerns and worries. But I'm here to tell you that it's not going to fall apart, but it may change, and we're so [00:04:00] terrified of change when it's the most inevitable thing that there is. And we try to control situations because we don't like the change. Our minds love routine.

They love consistency. They love knowing that they can predict what's going to happen.

But the main thing that falls apart or falls away when you go inward are the narratives, the stories, the limited beliefs, the patterns and behaviors that we live by every day. And a lot of these things that we're living by are trauma responses.

They're coming from a dysregulated nervous system. They're protective patterns that are in place to keep us from moving forward, that are keeping us in the same place

because we've deemed them [00:05:00] our comfort zone, our safe zone. Even if it's chaotic, because our mind will trick us into believing that chaos is comfortable if that's the only thing that you're used to. It will literally tell you when things are peaceful, that something is wrong.

I've just noticed as I keep going inward that. Things just have softened. I really don't find myself saying what if anymore, and if I do, it's a more positive way of looking at it. What if it gets to be good? What if I get the clients that are looking for me that are searching for me? What if they come in.

And I give them exactly what they needed to hear in that moment [00:06:00] to help them keep going down the path that they're meant to be on.

What if my kids thrive, if I let go just a little bit, if I stop trying to control everything they do, if I stop trying to force them into sports they don't wanna play, or activities that they don't enjoy. What if I just stop trying to live vicariously through them? Because maybe we didn't get to do that thing when we were younger.

What if I say no to this life draining client? So someone who actually appreciates me so deeply can come in?

When you do this work, you're creating space and opportunity. For the more aligned things to come in.[00:07:00]

We're not doing it for nothing.

There's always some type of wisdom reward, softening, more freedom on the other side of actually feeling the thing that we don't. Want to confront. And there's part of us that feels so guilty for actually wanting more for our life,

for wanting to do more than our parents did, more than what was expected of ourselves.

There's nothing wrong with desiring more for your life.

We are naturally abundant creatures, and yet we tell ourselves [00:08:00] that we are lacking in so many ways.

So what part of your life are you worried about falling apart? Are you worried that you're going to lose your job if you face your shadows? Are you worried that you're going to lose your relationship? If you confront that guilt and shame within you and you change your behaviors because of it? Are you worried that if you say no, when you've always said yes, that something bad is going to happen?

I know the minute that I stopped people pleasing, the minute that I shifted that in my body, this. Big giant black pyramid that I had in my stomach that was all around people pleasing and feeling like I had to do [00:09:00] that.

I feel like it was the very next day I was able to tell a client, look, I need 72 hours to turn things around now. And I used to turn them around immediately. And you know what? I didn't lose that client. Even by having a boundary, I didn't lose that client. They didn't walk away, but I had this perception, this story in my mind that said, if you say no, they're never gonna work with you again.

I was starting to show up in a new energy. I was calling my power back to me. And I was dictating how I wanted my time to flow. I used to create these schedules at the beginning of the week and have my work mapped out, and then as the week went on, that would go out the window because [00:10:00] things would come in and I would try to squeeze them in, and I didn't say, no, I can't get to that until next week.

I just tried to cram it all into the same week because I was afraid. Afraid of losing clients, afraid of not making enough money, afraid of these clients walking away

afraid of their perception of me, that I'm always gonna be the one they can turn to is gonna go away. I'm the one that always gets it done. And I think I liked being perceived that way because who doesn't wanna be needed? Who doesn't wanna be needed like that? But it was draining my life force. It was draining me so completely because I had not created any kind of energetic boundary around my time.

And time is our most valuable currency next to our [00:11:00] energy.

But over time. The more I've put these boundaries in place, the more I've said my truth. Yes, I have had clients fall away, but majority of them have been by choice. Some have been through just means of change. The client that the marketing agency I did work for for years, decided to go with a different agency.

And sometimes that happens, right? The change can happen at any time. Is our nervous system ready for it? Because old me when that happened back in, I think it was Christmas time last year, I would have panicked. They were a consistent client since 2013. Okay, like you're talking over 10 years of consistency and something that you [00:12:00] know how to do super well.

Something that you can basically do in your sleep. It just closes out of nowhere. That door just shuts. And if my nervous system was not ready for that, had I not done any of this work over the last few years. Old me would have panicked and been so anxious, so desperate feeling because oh my God, the money is drying up.

That is why we do the nervous system work. That is why we do the inner work. So when things change, when things shift. We do not immediately turn to panic. We do not immediately allow the fear to be the first thing that the switch gets flipped on for.

When [00:13:00] we are in a calm, relaxed state and a parasympathetic state, we can say, Hey, maybe this door is closing so that a new one can open. Maybe this door is closing to make space for me to keep going down this path rather than the one that has sustained me for such a long time. Maybe I'm ready for something new and the universe knew it before my mind did, so it's opening that door so I can create the space for that to come through.

Doing this work really does shift your perspective on how life works, that it's not coming to get you. It is trying so desperately to support you, and we just don't know how to let it in. We don't [00:14:00] know how to let it in.

Because we're conditioned to believe that there is so much lack. We are conditioned to operate out of fear, desperation.

We're conditioned to connect around our trauma, around what's going wrong rather than showing up for each other and in excitement around. The moves that people are making and the progress that they're making, and how can I support you? We want to talk about everything that's going wrong rather than how can I help you move forward down this path that you want to walk?

Can I come along with you and support you?[00:15:00]

We are so desperate for that connection. That's what we're eternally searching for, and yet we're conditioned to believe it's gonna show up in a thing in money in all these different ways, but we really. Want depth. We really want connection. We really want to be seen, to be heard, and we don't wanna be let down anymore

because I'm sure if you're like me, you've had a lot of people in your life let you down, even though you're the one that's always overgiving and people pleasing and making sure they're super happy and content getting everything they need. You feel like you're being let down.

We don't wanna feel that way again.

But if we let [00:16:00] everything fall apart, the narratives, the stories, the conditioning, all of those old emotions that we never learned how to fully process out of our system,

we realize.

The only one that can let us down is us.

And the only way we can let ourselves down is by not trusting ourselves and trusting that inner knowing that it's leading us to where we're supposed to be, who we're supposed to be with, who's gonna lift us up the highest. Who's gonna see us? For who we truly are,

how long are you going to let yourself down? How long are you gonna allow the status quo? [00:17:00] The chaos, the negativity. How long are you gonna let that be? What runs your life and not your heart? Had no idea this was gonna get this deep, but this is just whatever wants to come through my channel.

I'm really trying to not plan these episodes. I'm really allowing my channel to speak because I truly believe that that's what is most potent to pierce through.

To break the pattern, to interrupt the pattern.

It's almost like jostling, the screws that have been so cinched down for so long, it's like loosening those just a little bit. Just enough to break it loose just a little bit so you can let some of the light [00:18:00] in.

Sometimes it's just hearing one thing that someone says that flips the switch

or it leaves you with this curious, I wonder feeling. I wonder if she can do it. Maybe I can too. I wonder if she let everything fall apart that wasn't supposed to be there and she's still standing and she seems happier and she seems at peace and she's following her true calling. Maybe I can do it too.

We need examples. We need people to come forward and show that it's safe. It's safe to go inward. It's [00:19:00] safe to feel. It's safe to be who you are completely.

Your world is not going to fall apart. It may get dismantled in some ways, but it's going to be rebuilt on stronger foundation with better materials encased in light.

It's really about just making one big decision. And that decision is just choosing yourself over and over and over and over and over again.

When you choose yourself, you become a well of overflow. You're not pouring from the empty cup anymore,

and when you show up for people, [00:20:00] you can hear them. You can fully see them, you can have stronger discernment as to what that person is coming forward with. Are they standing in their truth or are they wearing the mask?

You become a human lie detector because you're able to see people's energy, the more clear you are. The more clearly you can see. It's like when you're walking around in a dysregulated state and you're operating from the conditioning and the limiting beliefs and the scarcity mindset and all of that.

It's like you have these fuzzy goggles on. I keep seeing those like 1970s round lenses that have like the colored lenses in them. When you start doing this work, [00:21:00] the colors shift to be more clear and eventually you just take the glasses off completely and you can see a so clearly what is for you, what is not for you, who is speaking from their heart and who is speaking from their mind.

Who is living from fear and who is living from love,

and I just truly believe that that is gonna be so paramount in the future from all of the messages I've received from my inner voice.

Self autonomy is gonna be paramount. Really knowing yourself deeply so that you can see the energy, really feel the energy of the world around you is gonna be [00:22:00] so important because that way you can't be deceived. You'll be so true in your power, in your own personal power. That you will immediately know where the deception lies, where the manipulation lies.

And majority of the time when you are fully standing in your power, you're not gonna attract those types of things into your environment anyway. When you're operating from lack, the universe has no option other than to give you more lack if you are in chaos and if your nervous system is in chaos.

The universe has no other option than to give you more of it. So think of it that way. If you're operating from peace and love, what do you think that the universe is going to give you more of?

It only wants to give you peace, love, joy, [00:23:00] satisfaction. Deliciousness. Excitement, enthusiasm, fun. That's what we want to experience, right? Right. But our conditioning, our trauma, our limiting beliefs, all of these things that our nervous system and body is operating from. Our subconscious mind is operating from is what's making that not available to us.

Our intuition always gives us these little glimpses, these little mini rewards along the way to show us that it really does want us to experience more of that. I [00:24:00] have the most beautiful example from the last couple of weeks. I've been spending a lot of time with my daughter. She is getting ready to go to college next year, so we've been doing the college visits and preparing her.

She's been applying to schools and everything, and she turned 18 yesterday, which is quite the milestone and. A couple of weeks ago, I had this, this nudge from my intuition to get her a t-shirt from one of her favorite bands. So I go on their website to get a shirt, and I have a nudge. Again, why don't you check where their tour is going to be?

Why don't you see if they're gonna be close anytime soon and maybe you can get her tickets? And so I listened to the nudge and the very first date was November 1st, four days before her birthday, and it was in Richmond, which is [00:25:00] about two hours away from us. It's always looking out for our highest good.

It always wants us to have fun and live a joyful life. She was so excited to go to this concert. And her and I had the most fun. I have not had that much fun in such a long time. It was the best experience. The universe is always looking out for us to take us to these places and spaces that are going to lift us up if we let them, if we follow those cues rather than the fear.

If we fully believe that things are not gonna fall apart if I follow this inner voice.

It is a [00:26:00] fun ride. Yes, parts of it are hard, but there is fun too, and you get. The multitude of the human experience, you can feel the lowest lows and the highest highs. And that's what we came here for, to feel all of it.

But we don't have to stay in the low frequency. We don't have to stay in those places where we've believed are our truth.

We don't have to keep believing that we're always gonna be let down, that we always have to people please, that we always have to overgive for us to be able to be okay.

It's safe. It's so safe [00:27:00] to do this work.

It is really about trusting yourself enough to know when it's time to choose you.

So I want to leave you with one question, and I'm gonna ask my inner voice what it wants to ask, because I think it's important to reflect on where you are right now. So I'm gonna tune in. And deliver you the question I want you to ask yourself,

where do you want to go and why do you want to go there?

Whew. That's juicy. That one could get deep. Journal on that for a while. See what [00:28:00] comes up. Where do you want to go and why do you want to go there?

It could be a place, it could be a state. I want to go towards more peace. Why do I want to go there so that I'm not living in the chaos anymore?

You get to choose. You get to create this life. Sometimes we believe that we do not have a choice, but you always have a choice. You always have a choice to create the life that you want to be living, just trust yourself. You get to choose the life you want to live.

The doors are opening soon for reclaim.

The wait list is still open. If you join, I'll be dropping [00:29:00] weekly emails and you can get little nuggets of wisdom, maybe some meditations. Before the doors open, just to welcome you into the energy and invite you in

because you're so worth doing this work. You are worthy of everything you desire, and the only one letting you down is yourself.

And you don't have to always feel that way. There's always a choice.

So if you would like to get on the reclaim wait list, the link is going to be in the show notes, and you can also book an inner voice session at any time. There is a link on my website to book [00:30:00] there, or you can book from the link in the show notes as well. Those are a great starting point. If you would like to go inward and really clear out some of the emotions that are right on the surface that are ready to go, so that you can hear your inner voice and tune in to what you need in this moment.

I am so glad I was able to be with you today. I hope this episode resonated with you in some way. And I will see you in the next one.

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